“Surrender and Self-Love: These are the two aspects that are so critical to ascertain because unless one twin fully gets this point, the other can never evolve. I’ll repeat my point, unless one twin, because one is enough to create the energetic shift, learns this lesson, the other is always going to repeat the same pattern that you always find yourself experiencing. To lead yourself to harmony within, of the alchemical merging of two polarities in your own soul, you must realize, where are you battling yourself? And what can you do to end this battle for good? Ask yourself important questions such as:
– Why do I fear love?
– Why do I fear being my authentic self?
– Why do I fear having someone see into my soul so deeply that I can’t even accept myself and my vulnerability?
– Why do I feel the need to run away or to chase someone who is already a part of me?
Ultimately, this journey is all about releasing all of the unreasonable conditions that your brain is overblowing into the reality of separation which doesn’t even exist. What this journey reveals is that there is no separation because at your core you are already whole.”
~Gabi Kovalenko
In case you didn’t already notice, I am talking about the concept of twin flames. Two parts of one soul that come together and merge in one lifetime. The two are meant to encourage or nudge the completion of each other but often through the mirroring of one another’s deeply held insecurities and unreasonably rigid beliefs of life.
If you see, a twin flame is one whom you feel deeply connected with while also being nudged to evolve into your higher self.
Departing vs. Divorce: A Gentle End of Relationships
The average divorce rate was 1.8 per 1000 people in 2023 on a global level. The year before, it was 1.6 per 1000 people. So, the rate is increasing and while there are undoubtedly several reasons for this, a particular one stands out – an incomplete circle.
If you’ve read many of my SiQ newsletters, you may have come across the concept of the incomplete circle and why it exists. To summarize it for you, allow me to indulge you a bit:
You have a circle within you that, depending on yourself, is either complete or incomplete. When a person feels incomplete, it’s most often because they have a sense of lacking a good home for emotional fulfilment, goals, ambitions, dreams to achieve, and so on. This sense of incompleteness is what leaves the circle within broken. The notion that extends from this incomplete circle is that it can only be completed by the involvement of another person.
– “He/she completes me…”
You’ve heard many people say this; you may have said it yourself, or someone must have said it for you. But does another person who may be incomplete have the ability to complete you? If they cannot complete you, you may think you made a bad choice, but it is not so. We just expect, assume, and desire too much from one person while it is in us that lies the potential to completeness.
The Illusion of Completeness and the Power of Relatedness
Many of us enter relationships with the mistaken belief that our partner will complete us. We project our hopes, dreams, and insecurities onto them, expecting them to fill the void within. However, this expectation is often doomed to fail.
A truly fulfilling relationship is built on a foundation of relatedness, not dependence. Relatedness involves connecting with another person on a deep level, sharing experiences, and supporting each other’s growth. It’s about being together, not needing each other.
When we approach relationships with this mindset, we’re less likely to experience the pain and turmoil of a traditional divorce. Instead, we can choose to depart, a gentler and more respectful way to end a relationship.
Imagine a puzzle, each piece representing a part of your life. Some pieces are smooth-edged and fit perfectly together, representing harmonious relationships and fulfilling experiences. However, there might be a jagged, incomplete piece, symbolizing a sense of longing or dissatisfaction.
Many people mistakenly believe that another person can fill this missing piece, making their puzzle complete. They seek a romantic partner, a friend, or a job to provide the missing element. However, no external factor can truly complete the puzzle.
Therefore, a more effective approach is to focus on completing the puzzle piece within yourself. By nurturing your own growth, pursuing your passions, and cultivating meaningful connections, you can gradually shape that jagged edge into a smooth, fitting piece.
By prioritizing personal growth, maintaining respect, and communicating honestly, individuals can navigate relationship endings with grace and dignity, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and complete life.
So, the key principles of departing entail:
· Self-completion: Prioritize personal growth and fulfillment.
· Mutual Respect: Maintain a respectful and compassionate attitude towards your partner.
· Honest Communication: Have open and honest conversations about your feelings.
· Letting Go: Release the need to control or change your partner.
· Graceful Exit: End the relationship with dignity and kindness.
Therefore, by embracing the concept of departing, one can transform a relationship ending from painful experiences into opportunities for growth and healing.
“We cannot chase a person or a dream to feel complete when within ourselves the circle of completeness is broken.”
~Krescon Coaches
